An Excerpt from 40 Days of Dating (Jessica Walsh & Timothy Goodman)

INTERVIEWER
Why did you participate in this experiment?
WALSH
All my relationships keep failing. Am I fucking them up, or have I not met the right guy? Tim and I have been friends for years, and we always make fun of each other about our relationship problems. I wonder if putting two people together with opposite issues could help. Plus, these problems seem to be common with many other girls and guys we know, so I want to learn more about love and relationships in an attempt to figure out why
INTERVIEWER
Do you like dating?
WALSH
I prefer being single or being in a relationship. Dating can be fun, but it can also just be painfully awkward.
Interviewer
What is difficult about dating in NYC?
Walsh
Everyone is too busy and thinks they can do better. I can be shy around new people, so I’ve had a hard time meeting guys here. For a long while the only interest I was getting was from a construction worker who would catcall near 15th street. Eventually I tried online dating, and I did meet some great guys, but it didn’t work out with any of them.
Interviewer:
When was your last serious relationship?
Walsh:
It ended a year and a half ago. It was painful since we were very much in love. We had many wonderful years together, we lived together, and we had a dog together. However, after discovering he was lying to me for months, the relationship deteriorated.
Interviewer: What do you think about Tim’s current dating life?
Walsh: Tim disappears on girls soon after things start to get serious. I don’t think there is anything wrong with him dating around if he is honest about it, but I do think he is leading some of these girls on unintentionally. It would be nice if he developed a healthier perspective towards relationships, so if he does meet a great girl, he doesn’t fuck it up.